Lets find out what your love language is

When it comes to self care think about giving yourself a pep talk, encouraging yourself:

• Journaling
• Daily affirmations
• Mantras
• Meditation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward.

Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.

How your partner can support you:

How to communicate: Encourage, affirm, appreciate, empathise, listen actively.

Actions to take: Send an unexpected message, encourage gently and often.

Things to avoid: Non-constructive criticism, not recognising or appreciating effort.

When it comes to self care think about things that make your body feel good or focus on physical wellbeing:

• Massages
• Soft blankets
• Exercise
• Spa days
• Physical activity

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love.

Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.

How your partner can support you:

How to communicate: Non verbal use of body language and touch to emphasise love.

Actions to take: Hug, kiss, hold hand, massage regularly, make it a thoughtful priority, consent is very important.

Things to avoid: Physical neglect, long stints without intimacy, receive affection coldly.

When it comes to self care treat yourself to things that make you happy:

• Craft/hobby supplies
• Trips out
• Comfy clothes
• Indulgences
• Investing in yourself

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift.

If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.

A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.

How your partner can support you:

How to communicate: Thoughtfulness, making them a priority, speaking purposefully.

Actions to take: Thoughtful gifts and gestures, express gratitude, small thoughtful gifts or acts mean more.

Things to avoid: Forgetting special occasions, unenthusiastic gift receiving .

When it comes to self care think about spending time alone, hobbies, and doing things that you love to do:

• Meditation
• Crafts and hobbies
• Taking yourself out
• Relaxing
• Reading
• Resting

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. For you, your partner being there for you is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – this makes you feel truly special and loved.

Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.

How your partner can support you:

How to communicate: Uninterrupted and focussed conversations, one on one time without distractions.

Actions to take: Create special moments together, take walks, do small things together.

Things to avoid: Being distracted when together, long periods without one to one time

When it comes to self care doing or arranging things for yourself that make you feel good will be really beneficial:

• Therapy
• Acts of kindness
• Scheduling
• Chores
• Delegating
• Going out

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely!

Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes.

The words they most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.

How your partner can support you:

How to communicate: Use action phrases “I’ll help”. They want to know you’re in it with them.

Actions to take: Do chores together, make them breakfast, do the jobs they don’t like, help alleviate their workload.

Things to avoid: Making the requests of other a higher priority, not following through on tasks